Top 10 Complaints of Chinese Girlfriends

Editor's note: Chinese women who are dating non-Chinese guys often express various issues which displease them – and the issues are mostly due to cultural differences and a lack of understanding. One of our forum readers from Pakistan sent us a list of what he considers the ten most common complaints of Chinese girlfriends.
那些和非华裔的男生交往的华人女孩常常会对各种事情吐槽，让她们的男友感到郁闷——她们吐槽的原因往往是出于文化差异。一位读者向我们的网络论坛寄了一份清单，列举了他认为中国女友最爱吐槽的十句话。Nosherwanabbasi (Pakistan)

1. You don't carry my handbag!
    你不帮我拎包！

Most foreign boyfriends believe that carrying a handbag of a girlfriend is basically the opposite of manliness. But this is a very common demand of Chinese girlfriends. Chinese girls usually carry useless and unnecessary stuff in their bags。
大多数的外籍男孩都相信，为自己的女朋友拎包是完全有违男士作风的行为。然而中国女友却常常要求他们这样做。中国的女孩子们喜欢在她们的包里放上各种用不上，也没必要带着的东西。

2. You don't text or call me three times a day!
   你没有一天三遍给我发短信或者打电话！

Chinese girlfriends usually demand that you stay in contact with them during the day and show that you care for them by calling or sending them text messages at least two or three times a day。
中国的女友常常要求你必须每天与她保持联系，还要每天给她打两三个电话或者发两三个短信，以表示你对她的关心。

3. You don't meet me often!
   你和我见面的时间太少！

If you don't visit or meet your girlfriend often she will call you selfish and this is a word Chinese girls use if you don't do something they want. However, for foreigners this word does not seem so strong and they consider it quite normal to be called selfish。
如果你不常常去女朋友家串门或者约她见面，她就会说你自私——如果你不按她的要求做某件事，她就会用这个词来指责你。可是，在外国人看来，这个词似乎无关痛痒，他们认为自私是很正常的。

4. Give less time to your friends!
    少花点时间陪你的哥们！

Sometimes, Chinese girls will complain that they don't like your friends, but this is not exactly true: They just want the guy to spend less time with his friends and more with them。
有的时候，中国女孩会抱怨说她不喜欢你的哥们儿，但这并不是她真正的想法：她只是想要男友少花点时间陪自己的朋友，多花点时间陪自己。

5. Why don't you take me to the bar?
    你为什么不带我一起去酒吧呢？

She will often complain that you don't take her when you go out to a bar and she will accuse you of not taking her because of various reasons。
她会常常抱怨说，你去酒吧喝酒的时候没有带她一起去，她会以各种理由指责你不带她一起去。

6. No fashion sense
   不懂得时尚潮流

She wants you to dress like she wants you to dress and she wants you to look like she wants you to look. Chinese dress sense is very different to other countries and it's quite difficult to follow。
她想要你按照她的想法着装装扮。中国的穿衣品味同其他国家的截然不同，很难遵循吧。

7. You don't know Chinese culture。
你不理解中国文化

You will hear this sentence very often from your Chinese girlfriend - that you should learn more about Chinese culture and start following it。
你会常常听到你的中国女友对你说这句话——你应该多学学中国文化，并且要身体力行。

8. Eat more!
  多吃点！

It sounds weird but it's true: A Chinese girlfriend will suggest that you eat more and "get healthier". The more you eat the healthier you will be - this is a Chinese saying and they truly follow it and try it on their boyfriends。
这听起来有点诡异，但的确如此！中国女友会劝你努力加餐饭，“多吃多健康”。也就是说，你吃得越多，身体就越健康。——这是一个中文谚语，她很相信这个说法，还在男友身上验证这个说法。

9.Eat less!
  少吃点！

Sooner or later you will start eating more and another complaint you will get is that you eat so much. Your Chinese girlfriend will start saying that you should eat less and this will be good for your health. Suddenly, the above-mentioned Chinese saying and perception will change。
或早或晚，你开始努力加餐，这时她又开始抱怨你吃得太多了。你的中国女友开始说你应该少吃点，这对你的身体健康有好处。忽然之间，之前她践行的中文谚语和养生观念就变样了。

10. Shopping
     购物

Last but not least, Chinese girlfriends will complain to you that you do not take her shopping. Yes! She is right - take her shopping often, even window shopping. She wants to hang out with you。
最后但也最重要的是，中国女友会抱怨你不带她去购物。是的，她是对的！——你要常常带她去购物，甚至只是随便看看。她就是想和你一起出门逛逛。